She's Keeping her Ex Around
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for 4 months now. She has told me that she has never loved anyone like she loves me and that I am the type of guy she has always wanted to be with. I love her the same way.
Problem is she still keeps close contact with her ex. He drops her to work. she takes him lunch to work. I did not mind that until one day I saw him drop her to work and she claimed it was another person. I confronted her and she claimed that she did not want to make me upset. That is why she did not tell me the truth. She said if it was me having this kind of contact with my ex she would be very jealous with me.
Since then I just have this jealousy with me that I can't get rid of. I asked her if she had told him she is seeing someone. She said she did not. She says she broke up with him in good terms and she does not want to just stop answering his calls. What is best for me.
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Well, I have the same issue. However some of my gf's ex's still have romantic feelings about her and trying to flirt and hit on her. How dangerous is that to keep ex's like that as friends? I don't think they're true friends at all. Keeping ex's as friends in my opinion and from what I learned is not a good idea. Especially if the ex's are needy and don't respect your relationship. There is reason why an ex is an ex , because you didn't get along with them. Also they can take advantage of you when you're vulnerable and just asking for advice about the current relationship. Ex's can even convince you about all the good times you had together and draw you in for selfish reasons.
A really honest ex that only cares about you and your relationship is hard to find.
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