however about 2 weeks ago i found a 4 page letter from her to him
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i have been seeing this guy for about 2 months. he has a best friend who is a woman, they had once had a relationship that was intimate , he said they were lovers in the past and not so long ago. my problem is this. he told me that he had stoped the sex part of the relationship with her when we met , yet he still values her friendship, however about 2 weeks ago i found a 4 page letter from her to him stating the she was confused as to why she had to keep there relationship confidential. and that if he was telling me that he was just seeing me that our relationship was based on a lie. i then confronted him and he told me that she was mad when she wrote that letter because he had told her he wanted to be with me . he says that he stopped the sex part of there relationship when we met, if that was the case how come 2 weeks ago she wrote that letter. i tend to think that that is when he probably told her that he only wanted me and not when we first met. i dont know how to handle that if he did not stop seeing her when we met , or continued seeing her up until 2 weeks ago. what would you do . he says to me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me . loves me with everything he is. and all that good stuff. would you believe that or not. by the way he does still talk to this friend i think daily.should i worry about that since he says they are just friends. help me out here not sure what to do.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
I have the same problem except my boyfriend talks to MANY girls, but says they are "just friends". Some of them he claims he has never had sex with but thats very hard to beleive. I too have been with my man for about two months. So i totally understand what you are going through. I have just tried my best to show him how much I love him and care for him. Right now i am hoping that is enough. Yet he "thrives" on the fact that other girls want him and that it makes me mad about how he talks to them. All i can say is show him how much he means to you and if he messes it up he'll regret it when he looks back and realizes how much YOU love him and care about him and he'll come back.And when he does make it clear to him that this is his LAST CHANCE and if he messes it up again that, THATS IT! Good luck! Hey wish me some too!!!
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