I'm Worried about Him Cheating
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and we're seriously discussing marriage. I love him with all my heart--it sometimes scares me to think of what life would be like without him. We're wonderful together, he seems happy, I get along well with his family and friends, and he does with mine.
My problem is that I had my heart broken before by someone I loved who cheated on me, and because my current boyfriend and I have been honest with one another about our past relationships, I know he has cheated on people in the past. Not consistently, but he has done it, and admits he has. He says that I have nothing to worry about, that he isn't like that anymore, that was his wilder past, and he's ready to settle down with me and only me. It still concerns me, though, because he's been married once before and cheated on his first wife. I knew him then (I've known him for years) and I do recognize that he isn't the same. I know he was miserable in that relationship and that she was cheating on him, too.
I'm not a perfect person, but I do not cheat. I can't fathom doing something like that. With his past reputation, it scares me. I'm becoming so jealous (mostly inwardly) that it bothers ME how jealous I'm becoming. I want to trust him, I really and truly do. I'm trying so hard...
do you have any suggestions? It's tearing me up inside. I love him so much, but I can't go through life always being suspicious of him when he isn't around me.
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
hope he's not cheating
Hi i have a boyfriend who treats me like a princess we started going out for about almost a month i used to call my boyfriends alot i don't do that i'm waiting for him to tell me that he loves me my friend told me that he might be cheating on me but she doesn't know yet i'll found out on my own i don't know if he is or not i want to trust him i do i don't cheat at all this guy was flirting with me i told him i have a boyfriend and i don't like to cheat i do really love my boyfriend i hope he's not cheating
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