Being Too Nice
We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions.
Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have seen this woman twice now and I really enjoy her company. I know she has been hurt in the past and I have been nice to her the entire time. I thought the other night that I may have made her feel uncomfortable by asking if I could kiss her. I have talked to her about it and I have told her how I feel and she feels the same way, but that I am being too nice.
How can I be too nice to someone and how should I take that to heart and change my ways to better suit the situation?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
world of total honesty
It is all too common and unnecessary, to be placed in a "too nice" category. It sounds as if it's something wrong with that person or that the devil has laid hands on them. Wrong!
First, there ARE those wonderful people who think of others before themselves, I am one of them. Second, those people are put in God's world for a reason (still unknown to me).
For those who don't know, this lifestyle creates a difficult world to live in; one in which everything around you becomes confusing if one lets it because of all the thinking that we tend to do. Even worse, this can become overwelming and depressing because you forget about yourself. Unhealthy? Yes, no one will be able to know you and take care of you as well as you.
"Treat others as you would wish to be treated", whatever happened to those days, right?
To the inquirer, stop asking so much and be yourself. If someone dosen't like that person, move along and question whether it is something you would like to change within yourself and keep on trucking!
It's a doggy dog world. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. Let's make this a world of total honesty and then, no one gets hurt.
I enjoyed sharing. Good luck
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