Guilt over suicide
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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
My mam and dad split up when i was 7, she got with a new guy and he was very hard on me and my 2sisters and brother,he had us doing work on bogs,hard labour that even the strongest of men found difficult!--he made us go to bed at 7 -even when it was summer and all our friends were out playing,im not been weird but we were good kids that did as we were told so i cant understand why he didnt treat us like human beings! Anyway when i was either 13 or 14 (by then he had 2 kids for my mother) i told him i didnt like him and asked him why wont he leave us alone, remember i wasnt like teenagers now-a-day, i was quite and just wanted a little "me time"---2 weeks later he committed suicide and from that day to this i feel its my fault,my mother says it went deeper than a petty argument, but im 20 now and still have nightmares over what i've done, i never hated him but i wont say he was a friendly person but i would never have wished that on anyone, i sometimes think about what ive done and tell myself it should be me.
am i gone mad?
what the hell is wrong with me?
thanks for your time
User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male
Heed the Lord
It's not easy to get rid of guilt over suicide. The best thing that I could suggest is to deal this matter with the Lord God.
If you think you have contributed something for the act, admit it and ask God's forgiveness. Admit that you are a sinner, repent and live a new life with the Lord.
Some suicide victims are just victims of uncontrolled emotion. Bear in mind that the Lord is merciful and is a good judge looking at the heart of every man.
(Heb 4:12) "For the word of God is living, and active, and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing even to the dividing of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and quick to discern the thoughts and intents of the heart."
A tragedy could be turned into a blessing depending on how you react unto it.
Instead of letting this tragedy ruin your life, make it a detour leading to the Lord. With him, you can find peace and live a life that matters.
(Mat 11:28-30) "Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."
"Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls."
"For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
(Rom 10:11) "For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be put to shame."
Develop a personal relationship with our savior Jesus Christ & the Almighty God. I suggest that you pray often, read the Bible, and go to Church. Communicate with people who could help you grow spiritually.
Remember that life on Earth is too short. We must do now what God wants us to do.
(Ecc 12:13)"This is the end of the matter; all hath been heard: fear God, and keep his commandments; for this is the whole duty of man."
May you become strong in faith and eventually conquer your guilt and receive salvation. May God bless you!!!
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