Now I find out he and my wife are having an affair
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My wife and I have been together for 7 years. We met in highschool but have only been married for 6 months. She just started a new job a couple months ago. A man there had trouble with his wife cheating on him. Now I find out he and my wife are having an affair. I confronted her and left. Now she says she loves me but it seems like she is waiting for me to ask her back. Should I try to mend this relationship or leave and should I wait for her to take steps to fix it since she is at fault?
User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male
I will take the kids
My wife cheated on me after 11 years of marriage, she was always on the phone and taking away so I wouldnt hear.
After seven months and numerous questions I finally had proof and confronted her. Turned out the guy was married as well , they met while both were at karate with our kids.
Needless to say , I am hurt , angry ,confused among other things.
I do not think I will ever forgive her. She now is more in love with me than ever. Before I found out she wanted me to move out for a trail seperation, now she doesnt but I do.She says she is more in love with me than ever.
All I can think about is the lies and deception.
Marriage counseling lets me express this in a positive way , but I have little hope for reconciliation.
How can I ever truly believe her again? I can't.
She made a choice , now doesnt want to suffer the consequences. I say she can have the bastard , and they can do whatever they want. I will take the kids and she can be the lil slut all the time.
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