Am I being too paranoic or is she too friendly with guys?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I am now 25 and she is 24. We've dated since 1st semester in college and its been 5 yrs now. Between that, she cheated on me with her long time ex bf back in her hometown when she went back for summer. I forgive her. She cheated me again with another best fried of her when I was out doing internship for 2 month. I forgive her. Its been 3 yrs that she had behave faithfully and its been 2 yrs that she told me that she loved me and wanted to marry me.
She has a problem with making girlfriends coz of her personality. But theres always some guy that wanted to be friedly with her. The problem comes when she doesnt reject any guys that wanted to be friend with her, even though we both know the guy likes her.
I dont know what is the problem here. Am I being too paranoic or is she too friendly with guys? She's one of those girls who enjoy her own freedom and space sometimes...
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Be honest to yourself
I sugguest you talk with her on this... don't ever be too scare to talk it through. But also... about her behavior? let me ask you some questions? Do you accepted her as who she is and what she do? Do you understand her way of making friends? If you know that she's the type that enjoy her own freedom and space at times... are you okay with that? What is it that make you forgive her for cheating behind your back? is it because you don't want to let her go? can you trust her about making friends with other guys? Sometimes you shouldn't always be okay for whatever she's doing. You have to stand up for yourself... also be honest to yourself and your feeling torward her. Like George said, it could affect your marriage and that you should work things out with her before things gone out too far. hopefully this could help a little bit for you... and also it's not a bad idea to talk to someone you trust.
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