My Boyfriend has a Kid
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Is having a boyfriend with a babymother bad? do you think me and him could have a future together even though he has a kid?
User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Not to worry
I have the same problem my boyfriend has 3 year old little girl and we have been dating for a year now and yes in the beginning it did bother me just on the strength i felt she was above me but she's really not she had her chance to be with him and she messed it up and i always feel my boyfriend will go back to her or have sex with her once in a while but we talk about this and he tells me he has no feelings for her at all she just has his child and will never leave me for her and he tells me shes just a girl i used to have a relationship with in the past and says he does have respect for her but he tells me not to worry about her more than I would other girls he might mess around with. So my advice is stay with him and no its not bad tha he has a child now a days everyone has kids with people they arent with just stick in there and remember just because she has his a kid doesnt give him the right to still have sex with her. also nothings stopping you guys from being together and never let what she says get to you especially if he tells you he dont want to be with her
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