If he really does have a problem with my age, then why doesn't he stop calling me
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I started working with this guy about 7 months ago and right from the start he was always flirting with me and saying how sexy I was. He tends to be flirty in general with everyone but I still felt like he liked me a little more than he was letting on. He asked me out frequently but I always blew him off because I thought he was joking. Finally about a month and a half ago I agreed to go to a movie with him. We had a really great time, he held my hand and was very touchy. After that date he started calling me almost every day and we went out a couple more times after that. He has spent the night at my house three times, although all we did is some intense kissing. He says that I he likes me but I am too young. I am 20 and he is 35. I don't understand this because we get along great and otherwise make a great couple. I don't have a problem with the age thing but he says he does. I don't know if he is just making an excuse because he is afraid of commitment or what. If he really does have a problem with my age, then why doesn't he stop calling me and asking me out? Am I just being used here or what? Please help.
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Doesn't want to hurt you
HMM I don't think you are being used. I had the same thing happened to me except he never said he was against the age thing. I was 22 and he was 32. In the end he did make up the excuse "we have different lifestyles" and he never talked to me again, i was so in love with him, he broke my heart; but honestly i think he was afraid of hurting me. he had a lot of baggage. he got married young, was divorced, had one kid that wasn't really his, had to pay child support and he hated his ex wife, he had this problem with his ear; he was in the navy and an explosion hit and he was deaf in one ear where he always fainted and had physical/mental problems; i think he just didnt want me to get involved with all that; i think he thought of me as some innocent girl. So if this guy is complicated he might just be afraid of not wanting to hurt you.
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