My Workmate is 15 Years Older - Will This Work?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been friends with this guy for about two years. In the past year weve gotten pretty close. Now we are coworker, but only see each other a few min. a day at work. Hes always been a big flirt, so i never took it serious when he would flirt with me.
Just a week ago we were talking online and we started to talk about our feelings for each other. He now knows that i have liked him for a long time. He said that he had been interested to but didnt think i was.
A few nights later i had car trouble and he helped me. Then he invited me back to his place, one thing lead to another and we ended up very intimate that night. I thought things were going well. but now we dont talk online much. He did say he has been really busy. He does call me alot just to chat while were working.
But the problem is that im not sure if he wants to take it any farther than just casual sex between friends, but i am interested in a relationship with him. Im really nervous about persueing to much because two other girls that were interested in him ended up scaring him off by trying too hard now he doesnt even talk to them. i dont want that to happen, but if he is still interested he may think that im not. what should i do... I dont know if i should flirt with him, or ask him out, or what.
Theres also a big Difference in age with us.. Im 21 and he is 36. If we dont mind the age thing.. Is it actually a problem?
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Don't pry but ask
WOW , same thing here happened....i was 22 and i went out with someone who was 32. I love older men; they are so cool but so complicated. Sounds like my story but a little different; i did fall in love with an old co-worker who i was so intrigued by. Anyways if you two are just fine with hte age thing, it shouldn't matter. but from what i learned most older men might be afraid of hurting a younger woman; i know it sounds dumb, but i really think its true. older men have a lot of baggage, they are more complicated. if he really seemed into you, more then just sex, and you think he is a great guy that it can work, i would talk to him about it. tell him how you feel. if he doesnt react hmm i dont know; its hard to say without knowing him. u know him better then ne one else though. dont pry but ask.
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