Ex Needed Space :
Needing Space = Wimpy Breakup Method
Some partners try to weasel out of a relationship by claiming they are NOT breaking up - they just need space. But let's evaluate this here. If you were not breaking up, you wouldn't change anything. You'd work on the problem together. That's what couples do. That's the whole "for richer, for poorer" phrase when you get married.
When you "get space", you are deliberately becoming apart from your partner. Think about this - the whole basis of a relationship is understanding and being close to your partner. If you deliberately go FARTHER from your partner, you increase the likelihood that you'll grow apart. You increase the likelihood that you'll get snuggly with another person. You'll increase the likelihood that you realize you really didn't need that person in the first place. Very little good can ever come of deliberately telling your partner to get lost for a while.
Either you're in a relationship or you're not. If you are, then your commitment to the relationship should mean that you open your mouth and discuss and fix issues. If your method of fixing problems is to run away from them and hope they go away on their own, then no relationship is going to work.
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