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Breaking Up :
How to Break Up :
Learn to Accept



My boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago, yet we are still friends. One of the few rare times I have seen such a thing work to some extent. It took me a while to trust him but he knew how important he was to me. The relationship was long distance then not so we'd spend loads of time and then long distance then not then again long distance (all in about 6 months!). So it was a little crazy.

I was hurt by the break up but I accepted that it was what he wanted and it was what would make him happy. I loved him enough to just want him to be happy. He first told me he wanted a break, those words to me meant break-up. So then a few days later it was made official. I didn't like it, but I didn't want him back if he didn't want to be back. I had to learn to accept what he told me about his feelings and how the distance was too hard and that he felt we became friends because I had no other logical choice.

Learning to accept such a thing is hard. I cried myself to sleep for a few weeks, put everything that reminded me of him (for the most part) in a box and put the box in the corner of my room. But as time went on I accepted the relationship was really over and that I wasn't going to get another chance because I wanted it. I had to allow him to be my friend, which meant monitoring myself so that I didn't IM, text, or call him too much. But I managed to do that so we managed to stay friends.

The break off, besides some confusion and my upsetness and his missing what it was ended nicely. Yes the relationship ended well. There was no crazy fight, no trying to convince the other to stay, no real omg I hate you and never want to talk or see you again. It was an end that was accepting on my part of his feelings and how he wanted to go about things.

so in short if you accept and respect what the other person wants you can still maintain friends. And I believe if you really loved and cared about them you would want what makes them happy, even if that isn't you. It's like a child, if you couldn't provide for it hopefully you would find a way to give the child the best life possible, because you love your child. If you love your significant other than you should want what is best for them. It may not be what seems best for you, and certainly it will be hard. But it will work out.

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