Hey Everyone,
I am in need of some advice. I recently found out that my boyfriend of 1.5 years has been secretly emailing a girl(sending naked picturs to her, asking if she wants to hook up, etc.) who he met through the internet. I immediately asked him what this was all about and he completely denied it. He did eventually confess however. We are broken up at the moment but deep down I keep wanting to get back together. He didn't actually do anything physical with this other woman but he might have if I didn't catch it so soon. Its hard to throw away a relationship when you have been through so much such as a deployment which he just got back from 4 monthes ago. I have talked to alot of people about this but I want to have other peoples opinions. People that don't know me or him...someone on the outside. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Hope everyone is having a great day

Hi Lana

That does sound very odd to me and I would be concerned about it, too, if I were you.

On the other hand, you cared for him and you cannot just turn that off when something weird like this happens.

They didn't have a 'relationship', in the accepted form of the word, but something was going on.

Some men do seem to need 'something else' while feeling that they are remaining true to their partners ~ eg prostitutes. I don't know why, because I am not a man, but, if you feel that you want to look at this relationship again, then maybe a deep discussion or even counselling might be in order.

Did he feel that he was doing something wrong?
Could it be that he felt that there was something lacking in your relationship?
This 'deployment' ~ what, exactly, was involved and could it have affected him in some way that might explain this behaviour?
Had he done anything like it before?
What did he feel about it all?