ok. so ive liked this boy on and off for i think 3 years, and last year i honestly loved him, even though we weren't dating. i may be young but whatever, right? anyway, i stopped liking him for a while because i realized how big of an xxx he can be. he and my friend started going out and all i wanted to do was claw her eyes out everytime i saw her :P. we talk on the phone a lot but sometimes he can get xxxxxx off at the smallest things. (i sent him a text message once and he called me and started cursing me off. he appologized later though) i really like him and he's a HUGE flirt so idk what he thinks. im afriad to tell him anything but at the same time when i talk to him, i almost want him to know. i dont want to ruin what we have now by telling him but i want to know what he thinks also. any ideas of what i should do ????

It sounds to me as both of you need to add a few more years to your life, no disrespect intended.

I'm sure many young people go through phases where they think they're absolutely and positively in love, I know I did when I was very young but as you get older you realise that it was all 'teething' hormones.

For a boy to use that type of language to a girl shows he doesn't have a great deal of respect for her, but at least he had the decency to apologise for it.

If you're really keen just talk to him, ask him to a movie, go to the beach together or just walk and have a coffee somewhere.

Hi Gab

You say that you don't want to ruin what you have now, but I wonder what you do have?? Are you just friends?

It's difficult not knowing your ages. As Aerial says, hormones play a huge part in teenage emotions ~ & crushes come and go.

It's worrying that he would swear at you for nothing ~ but good that he apologised.

Yes, the cinema or a sporting event ~ perhaps in a group ~ might be something you could suggest, and just see how it goes.

Good luck.

We're both about to go into ninth grade (14 yrs.) and me and him usually talk about whats going on. he cursed me off because i asked him if he and my friend were back together and apparently something happened between them that i didnt know about. after he apologized for yelling at me, he explained what happend and he kept saying that he was sorry and how he kept screwing up with people. well what we have now is kind of like a friendship and he always comes to me with his problems and always asking for advice. i actually just talked to him yesterday and the whole time we were making each other laugh =]. i still dont know if i should tell him or not =/. oh well, whatever happens, happens.

Getting to know each other as friends is a good way to start. From what you've said he seems to be genuinely sorry and is enjoying your company.

Before telling him how you feel, why not ask him to go out somewhere either in a group with friends or just the two of you as PDM suggested.

Don't rush it, just play it be ear and if you really think he might be interested and you won't scare him off by saying too much, let him know that you are interested. I'm sure he'd guess that anyway if he accepts your invitation.

haha thanks for the advice =]