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#424905 - 04/19/13 01:41 AM
Go a Day Without Complaining
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Lisa Shea
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I was inspired by a book I just finished to embark again on a no-complaint quest. Here's the idea. You don't want to be a doormat  . You don't want to be used. However, as Anthony D'Angelo says: "If you have time to whine and complain about something<BR> then you have the time to do something about it." Not only that, but the stress in your body caused by complaining actively harms you. Those stress hormones eat away at cells, reduce sleep, cause blood pressure issues, and much more. It's so much better to be free of all of that! So here's how it works. You make a goal simply to be *aware* of when you start to complain. Then redirect that energy. You don't want to bottle it up. You also don't want to indulge in it. Find a way to handle it. If there's someone else involved, find a way to constructively work with them to fix the problem. You can absolutely "up-manage" bosses and "re-train" family members. I've seen it done. I'll post all sorts of tips in these forums to help with those issues. If it's something completely out of your control, like "this sucks, it's raining" - then being stressed or complaining about it is useless!  . It's out of your control. It's a fact of nature. Accept it and find a way to work with it. Find something else to do. Maybe this is an opportunity in disguise! I'll also post tips on those. Post in here with your challenges and achievements!
Lisa Shea, Owner
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#424916 - 04/19/13 04:48 PM
Re: Go a Day Without Complaining
[Re: Lisa Shea]
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Lisa Shea
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Starting fresh today. So far it's going well. Things are fairly quiet here, Bob is off playing golf, so it's me, the cat, and the parakeet. Laundry is running, dishwasher is running, Scooba is cleaning the kitchen floor, so lots getting done.
Lisa Shea, Owner
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#424926 - 04/21/13 06:06 PM
Re: Go a Day Without Complaining
[Re: Lisa Shea]
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Lisa Shea
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My no-complaint day had a minor hiccup midday but is going smoothly since then  At a lovely lunch with my family, I drank all my water. I asked the waitress for another one. And waited. And waited. I got fairly thirsty. So I asked my Dad if I could have his, since he wasn't drinking his. Someone at the table commented, 'hadn't you asked for a fresh glass of water?' And I said, "Yes, I asked a while ago, and she never brought it." I realized that that sounded sort of grumpy so I added "not that I'm complaining" - but really, there was a hint of a whine in there  . So I will own up to that.
Lisa Shea, Owner
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