I actually just managed to get out of this situation. It was not normal - i personally think it takes a while to feel close to someone.
He was demanding I have emotions for him after four dates and a few emails. He didn't want me camping overnight with my male friend. He told me I was neglectful for not texting him every day from Vegas with how much I missed him.
I could just see how he would take to my flying out to stay with Dan next month.
I don't need hassles like this.
Also, our life philosophies were hugely incompatible. I think what was nice for me was that I felt really 'wanted' by somebody...but that really isn't enough.
There are actually plenty of fish on the Plenty of Fish site. I have a bunch of nice, normal men I am communicating with who aren't asking more from me than I am capable of giving.