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PDM #375330 07/13/09 03:49 AM
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you will have a much better idea of what is right for you now. don't EVER give who you are away for anyone else and NEVER let yourself become someone's doormat, even if you are afraid to be on your own. things happen for a reason. it may be horrid now... but down the road... you will see "hey, if that hadn't happened, this great thing would never have happened!" i live by this. it may be bad but sometime (perhaps a couple of years even) you will see if that bad thing had never happened... you would have missed this GREAT thing! my becoming a grandma is proof of that theory. i believe EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. fate may seem horrid, but you would be amazed at how much it is actually on your side if you look around you.
keep your chin up, otherwise... you may trip on your tongue. don't give up, EVER, FOR ANY REASON. smile


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Originally Posted By: baby blue
..... it may be horrid now... but down the road... you will see "hey, if that hadn't happened, this great thing would never have happened!" i live by this. it may be bad but sometime (perhaps a couple of years even) you will see if that bad thing had never happened... you would have missed this GREAT thing! ....

Yes, I think that you are right.


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This would be a much easier process if HE was a willing party to the breakup. Now I have to go through the whole shananigans of changing my # etc etc....

I hope I dont need a restraining order, but he has decided and I quote "I dont accept you breaking up with me"

well, tough tushie sweetie, you bum has met the curb nonetheless.



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Well, as we have seen, over & over again on this part of the site, it can be very difficult to accept that a relationship is over, if one doesn't want it to be.

One party may consider a relationship to have ended, and for a relationship to exist, both parties have to be in it, therefore it would, indeed, be over, but, from the other person's point of view, this may not seem right. It would, then, be difficult for that person to accept.

The point is, if you do not feel happy in this relationship, then it cannot continue, but that doesn't mean that it will be easy for him to accept, whether or not he has done anything to contribute to its failure.

It will be a difficult time ~ it's bound to be ~ but you must do what is right for you and yours.

Good luck.


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PDM #377609 07/29/09 08:03 AM
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That is life ... not all what we want we get.. What is good is in other people;s hands and what we do not like or see unsuitable for us is made available and we do not wish to take it. What can i say .. also i have an ex hubby and a b/f for the first time in my life who is married with kids so i have to make such a clean break as advised... i fear being lonely and do not want to be the isolated single mum in a foreign country! so what other options i have? Family say work, work and work and definitely my kid , will that be enough? what else i could do to avoid tears and loneliness?

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