RomanceClass.com Forums Romance Breaking Up I can't believe this is the end

I can understand how you both feel.

What's worse it that today, afterschool, we randomly found each other wondering into our 'spot' at school, the place we always went to if we wanted to be alone.

And then the worst thing happened...

We started making out and used light touches...
It took me a while to come to my senses and say what we were doing is wrong. He was upset about it, and I don't blame him because I want it as much as him.

But...

What am I to do? We can't resist each other and now we have to be apart? It's so difficult...

Yes, it is going to be difficult.

But how are we going to 'outgrow' our love for each other? I see him everyday at school: before, during breaks and in the passages, as well as afterschool. It's not like I can just turn a blind eye to his image...

I know ~ and I wish that there was something that I could say to help.

Maybe things were getting too serious, too soon, between the two of you, and your father thinks that it is time to put on the brakes. He may even be right??

You can still see this boy, and be close friends with him ~ at least you are not banned from seeing him.

Maybe, in time, if your father can learn to believe that you will not let things go too far, just maybe he will relent a little.

Well, I guess we did get too serious too fast. We only knew each other (literally) for less then 3 months before we became an official couple. We went from being complete strangers to being in an intimate relationship really quickly. Perhaps it was time to put on the brakes.

But I've been thinking...

Everything that we still wanted to do for each other, we've decided to go ahead with a few of them:

- He's always wanted me to wear a dress and be more 'like a girl' (since I'm always in pants and sneakers, having this very boyish attitude). So for Friday, 13th February (probably when we celebrate Valentine's Day at school) I'll give him that wish. I already bought my dress: it's pure black satin, strapless and has a ribbon around the waist to tie a bow. Well, the dress took quite a bit of money (about three hundred South African rands), but it's worth it for him. Now I'm completing the look with new shoes and a matching jacket. Yeah, it's a bit over the top, but I want to do it. I've always wanted to give him that (it makes me kinda feel good too)

- At the Talent Show at the end of the year, I plan to dedicate a song to him as I did last year. Actually, we are both doing an act dedicated to each other. I plan to sing a song called "Halo" by Beyonce. It's a really difficult song in my ears, but I plan to perfect it by that time. The song holds a lot of meaning in it for me (best to check it out and listen to it to get the feeling).

- When we're both older, we plan to go to Italy together (possibly for my 21st birthday). We decided on this last year and I expressed the idea openly at a birthday party.

I'm trying to look at the positive side of things.

Maybe, if he agrees, I can put a small plan of my own into action: Since I can't go to his Graduation Dance with him, maybe we can have a small dance of our own. Maybe a day afterschool when we're both free? We both wanted to be each other's partner, so this might be a memorable chance, and an only chnace at that.

What you think?

I just think that whatever you do, you must be sure not to antagonise your father any further, as you don't want a complete ban.

Why does your dad have to know your dating him? Can't you just keep it at school. and let your parents think your just friends? Thats what I would have done.

To ma'am PDM: Don't worry. I don't plan on antagonising my dad. Well, considering Valentine's Day, I'm part of the group organising it, so I have my reasons to look nice. Talent Show-wise, my father never knew I did it last year, so it would be no big deal this year. And the Italy thing... it's only a few years from now. By then my dad should have cooled off.

To Kila&Makena: We've considered it, but the consequences following it are very high if I get caught out and it's a risk I'm not sure that I want to take.