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I had been dating this girl for a few months over the summer and we had a long distance relationship for the past 2 months when I went back to school. the other night when we talked she told me that she thinks she likes someone of the same sex but that she still feels strongly about me. She didn't want to tell me because she thought I would look at her differently. she took a big chance telling me this. When I think about her I still just see all the things I loved about her in the first place. She knows how I feel about her and that I care about her so much I just want her to be happy, even if it means it doesn't involve me.
I can tell shes confused and of course I am too. I don't know if I should give her time to try and figure things out or what I should do.

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated

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i think that i would tell her that you still love her for her and that this new info doesnt bother you (if it doesnt) and give her time to think about things after that..

How long distance was it just out of curiosity :-D

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Originally Posted By: Brittanie
How long distance was it just out of curiosity :-D


about 700 miles -VA to Vermont

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smile i was jc.. :-D
hope the advice helps.. soon you will have many other posts on here.. count on it smile
also curious .. if you want to tell.. no obligation i swear..
how old are you both?
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Originally Posted By: Brittanie

how old are you both?
JC ;-D


I am 20 and shes 17. The age difference is not a concern to the family's involved and other people that matter and I've always been grateful that people have felt this way.

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do u know if she has ever felt this way b4 u got with her?
i do believe that she could be confused. just being away from u for a while and needing your attention may have turned her a different way as well, just seeking affection. i am not sure of this of course. but being in a military relationship i sure know about that myself. long distance relationships are hard no matter who u r....

i know that some ppl find out later in life how they feel about their own sexuality. i know myself being 30 just realized that i am also attracted to the same sex. have not made a move on it tho. my hubby knows and does not care if i do. but of course i only want to be with him. he would accept me however i want to be. bi or straight. we would not divorce over it.

no matter what tho. if u r in love with her and she with u, things will work out. just be open with her and let her know how u feel. let her know exactly how u feel and that u are interested in anything she wants to tell u about it. of course, if that is what u want. i know it helped me to know that when i told my hubby a few months ago.

good luck to the both of you.



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Welcome to the forum, rbm smile

I think that you have received some good advice here.
Honesty is the best policy ~ as she has shown, by confiding in you.
Remain honest with her, too, and things will turn out for the best ~ even if it means that the two of you won't remain a couple.

Good luck! smile


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Thank you for all your advice. It has been helpful

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