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#306428 07/01/08 02:33 AM
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We broke up from 132 days...I think she want us to have our another relationship and that's what I am willing to !!

To be honest , I am losing a lot without her frown
Any tips or tricks on how to make her open that subject again ??

Any forgiveness songs names would be appreciated too.

We broke up because she thought that I am cheating her, all evidence was against me, and for some reasons I couldn't defend myself !!!


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Yasser #306472 07/01/08 07:46 AM
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Hello Yasser.
Welcome! smile

Well, I suppose you need to consider why there was so much evidence that you were cheating, if you were not.

Also, you need to consider why she didn't believe you, if you were telling the truth.

Relationships need trust.

Had you done anything to make her distrust you?

I can only suggest that you write to her and tell her the truth as clearly as possible, hoping that she will believe you and give the relationship another try.

Have you cheated?
If so, can she forgive you?

If you have not cheated, can you forgive her for not trusting you?

You will both need to do a lot of talking and thinking.

Good luck!


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Well...I believe I couldn't defend myself because at that time I was facing a lot of problems here and there ... college failure, Dad and mom were divorcing... I am building a small company that was facing a lot of serious troubles at that time . I was totally depressed ( as if I am fine now :S ) and I don't know why didn't I talk at that time but I felt that my tongue was stuck and I said nothing to her except I love you and I didn't do so !!!

Evidence were showing that I cheated because when I dealt with some devilish minds, I never thought they would hurt me from the back.. you know, it's complicated and I can't describe it all frown

About the letter, believe it or not !! I have been writing the letter since we both broke up and I think it might take me a year to finish it :S


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Yasser, when there is a lot going on in one's mind, it is very, very difficult to express oneself ~ and it can take ages to write letters, etc.

But, sometimes, it is necessary to set aside a few minutes especially for that task ~ knowing that it has to be done ~ and force oneself to get on with it.

Take those minutes.
Write that letter.
You will feel better once you have done it.




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Your words are so soft and sweet but I am afraid that they might too good to be true like a lot of things passing by my ( driven by others ) life !!!

My letter is somehow different, I write her a letter daily willing that she we will one day read them all.

I can't move, I am seriously stuck !!


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Yes, but time heals so the longer you wait, possibly the less chance you have. You don't want her to be overwhelmed all at once either.


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So you think I should approach now directly ??


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My opinion:

One simple letter, explaining everything ~ what you did and / or didn't do; why people misinterpreted it; why you couldn't respond at the time; why you feel so upset; that you still love her; that you wish she trusted you; that you are upset that she doesn't trust you.

Put everything in, make sure it's clear how you feel, but don't make it any longer than it needs to be.

Do it soon, so that she knows the truth as soon as possible and you can take it from there.

But you must do what you feel is right for you!
Good luck!


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