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I'll set up the situation for everyone:

At the begining of the school year, I vividly remember seeing a sophmore girl in my French class. Wow, what a beauty. Blue eyes, long brown hair, funny, attractive, everything a man could ask for. I am only a freshman and our year of 06-07 is closing in less than a week. I remember that first day like nothing else i have ever seen. I didn't even know her name then. I had a crush on her ever since that first day. About 3 times during the year, we got to have our seats changed and i finally got to be her partner the last marking period of the year.

I hung out with the sophmores in my class most of the year but i never really talked to that girl. I couldn't stop thinking about her though. We both use www.facebook.com to connect with other friends and i saw that she was single. I never had that much excitement about being single ever before. So when we switched our seats we began talking alot more.

We talked about so many different things.

To give a little information on us, (nothing to far) ill share a little. I am tall, very athletic, pretty popular but i have never been on a real date before. ALl my friends have made out with girls but i haven't even had a date in my life yet. So yea im popular but i can't get the ladies. I play lacrosse for my school, and i play basketball with my friends.

The girl, who i will refer to as Jill (not her real name) was amazing. I soon found out after talking to her that she loved lacrosse, and she played for the school also. We had so much in common. She was on the varsity swim team, and i admired the challenges she over came during the year. We loved summmer and winter, we hung out with our friends, we loved thunderstorms (weird huh?) and we talked so much in such a short time.

She always would make comments to me about my grades, about how she was jealous of how smart i was. I would always tell her that she was and she was jsut getting unlucky.

I was an honors student, top of my class, straight A's, yet my friends and other girls said i was charming and cool. Not a normal geek or nerd in your high-school years. I couldn't understand why i couldn't hook up with any girls.

Half way through that marking period when we were talking alot, she started dating a hot shot senior. That's right, a senior and here i was a freshman wanting a piece of his girl. That was when i started having trouble with her feelings towards me. After that point at which she got a boyfriend, i would see her look at me most of our class. We made eye contact so much during this time period and i felt a real connection but the senior was still in the way.

The year's closing out now and i still am feeling some sort of love towards this girl. She still is dating that same senior but the weird behavior of her engaging in alot of conversation and even her flirting to the level of touching baffles me.

Today during class, there was a thunderstorm, one of our most favorite thing and we smiled at each otehr the whole class every time we heard thunder or saw lightning. We weren't even paying attention to our teacher, only focusing on nature and then on each other. We told each toehr how boring French was and how we would love to be outside watching the storm roll by.


Please help me with this predicament.

Thanks to all in advance for your help




ajnard

first: awwwwwwww!

second: do you think she might be going out with that senior to make you jealous? i don't know if girls ACTUALLY do that in real life.. but hey, you never know.

its true, i never see them talk or anything but im not going to jump to conclusions.

Hopefully ill see her next year, i don't even know how im going to get through the summer without seeing her face.




ajnard

Another think I forgot to mention.

I think i have real feelings for this girl. I think about her when i am hanging around my house bored, i see her in my dreams often and i can't stop staring at her during our class.

I think i have been bitten by the love bug :-)



ajnard

Why don't you just tell her that if she were single, you would ask her out.

Or is that a bad thing to do when she already has a boyfriend? Hmm .. not sure.

It just strikes me that you two have a connection, yet she is going out with someone else.

Maybe she will finish with him, without knowing that you like her, and you could miss out on a summer together.

Perhaps you could tell her that you would ask her out, if she didn't have a boyfriend, but since she does, you hope that you can continue to be friends. Or something like that.

And perhaps she just likes you as a friend.

Good luck & welcome.

so did you friend her on facebook? if not, i'd take the initiative and friend her!

another thing... i think it'd be best if you developped a relationship with her OFFLINE first. (though it seems you already have.)

because i find it's usually awkward to talk to people in "real life" when most of your conversation is done through text.

I'm sure the feelings you have are real.

What concerns me here is that if she's in fact dating a senior, why is she flirting and touching you? To me that would indicate a problem in her relationship with the senior. If she's actually with this person, she shouldn't be doing this to him. Do you know for sure if she's with him still as a girlfriend or are they just friends? This needs to be sorted out before the next step is taken on your part.

If it's the latter, perhaps it's time to just go ahead and ask her if she'd like to go out to a movie, coffee or a track meet with you.

thanks for all the replies!

1.) u have friended her on facebook and we dont realy talk on it that much, we only talk during school.

2.) On facebook shes listed as in a relationship with the senior still.

3.) I met her before in our local Starbucks a few times before i relaly got to know her, i think she likes coffee.


And yes, you are probably wondering why i didn't take the oppurtunity to ask her out when she was single. Well, i'm pretty shy with girls because i have no experience. I have no problem talking with any girl, even senior girls i don't know to give my friends a good kick. But i think it's the rejection that scares me. Everything throughout my life has been easy, and i ahve succeeded with flying colors, even with school. I think that i can't face the reality of rejection.


With new motivation, i will now ask her out if i notice she is single and maybe we'll meet for coffee sometime.

Another question:
What happens if the senior thinks i'm starting something with his girl when she's the one flirting with me? Am i in big trouble then?



ajnard

you're brave! i would never have the guts.



and this is where communication is key... don't assume anything of anyone; say it all! just make sure to that point across, that she flirted w/ you and not the other way around.

but what's this senior guy like? you can be the only one to judge since none of us know him :o)

hes a jock

Large, muscular, intimidating

I wouldn't wanna get into any trouble with him.


They are a good match though, both athletic and popular......i guesss


Ill try my luck tomorrow during school, and ill check back later tomorrow with an update.




ajnard

Okay good luck. Hope everything goes well.

Update:

Today was the usual flirting and looking at each other during class. I personally couldn't keep my eyes off her, she was beautiful as usual. Although at the end of class something different happened. I told a close friend (not my dream girl) that i was gonna get my hair cut, and whether or not i should shave all my hair off(i have fairly long hair). I was joking of course but my dream girl looks at me after i ask the question. She made a very straight face and said, "noooooooooooooo" a real dragged out no, and then she said that i should keep my hair the way it is.

The weird part was that i wasn't even talking to her which means 2 things. 1 she really is paying attention to me, and 2, she likes the way i look.



thanks all


ajnard

A couple of options:

Ask her if she has a boyfriend.
If no ~ ask her to go out with you.

Ask her if she would like to have coffee with you ~ just casually ~ no commitments.

Yes she has a boyfriend, but she doesn't seem like the type to have a long distance relationship since i know the guy is going off to college out of state this summer.

I am planning on asking her if she would like to meet during the summer for coffee or a walk sometimes because im not in any of her classes next year.

http://phocks.org/stumble/girlsarelike.php
very good poem
It reminds me of her



ajnard

If she has a boyfirend I think it's best to not mess with her.

Here's what I'd do ,mate, just tell the lass that you liked talking to her in class and you'd like to talk outside of school, thats an excuse to get her number and email address etc. Then just ask her if she would like to talk while you are having tea or something. Maybe get one of your best mates to ask around if she likes you. You seem like you'd have a better chance than most lads our age, just go for it. Good Luck!
"peace"

watch out for that senior chap though! forgot that bit! yeah be careful, he could belt ya in the gob if he sees ya with her! keep it on the down low, mate!

I agree with irish_hippie20! That sounds like a great plan, but before I read his comment I wouldn't ask her out or flat out tell her in any way that you like her and would like to ask her out. Because this can damper a friendship. Who knows... she might like you! (Like you as in "go out on a date liking). I think you have a great chance though judging by the information you've left us it sounds like you have a really good shot at it! Good luck, and keep us posted!