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there this girl that i have seened in a pageant. i never had the guts to talk her. but know i saw her in my space. n i want to start to get to know her. but i have writing to her saying that i want to get to know her as friend but she never responded. what can i write to her so i can get her attention.

Hi jskmg

You could try saying 'hello' again ~ she might not have received your first message.

However, you may just have to accept that you are not meant for each other.

Perhaps she could be shy? Or as PDM said, she may not have received your message.

Does she know who you are?

You could start off with just chatting to her about a recent movie or band and asking what type she likes. Get chatting first and then ask her out for a coffe i.e. 'can I buy you a coffee or drink'. Make it simple.

If she says no or that she's not interested then accept it because at least then you'll know the answer and who's to say she won't contact you again after thinking about it. If she's the shy type she may just say no because of that.

Originally posted elsewhere by jskmg:
'well theirs this girl in myspace that i really like.so then i send a freind request and a message with lovely poems. so then she accepted me and she send me a message saying which poem she loved. but know i dont what to say to her. so what kind of messages can i send so i can get her attention even more'

If she likes poetry, why not ask her about her favourite poets and poems.
Ask her if she writes poetry or prose.
Ask her what she likes to read, about other hobbies, favourite music, etc.

I notice you used the subject heading "love". To take Tina Turner out of context "What's love got to do with it"?

You are talking about a young woman you have never met, whom you have seen on stage and on the internet.

You seemingly have what was called in the innocent days of my youth a "crush" on this young woman - that is to say you are attracted to her appearance.

Regardless of the well-meaning advice and platitudes of the others who have responded to your post, the solution to your problem is simple - accept reality.

You say "i want to start to get to know her. but i have writing to her saying that i want to get to know her as friend but she never responded."

A couple of posters tell you that she might not have received your letter; you should write her again.

Yeah, maybe she didn't receive it; far more likely that she just has chosen to not respond to a stranger writing and asserting friendship.

In today's social climate, repeated attempts to make this woman respond to you could be seen as stalking or harrassment. It seems perhaps she does not want to be your friend; she does not want to talk to you. Why not just leave her alone then? Why not try making friends with people you have actually met?

What you have to do is to make sure to not take this personally. There can't be anything personal about it - you have never met, there is nothing about you this young woman knows to dislike. Many times the fact that a stranger might ignore you or have no interest in you has nothing to do with you at all.

Too long to make it short and sweet, but the short and sweet is forget about this one, move on to the next one - I assure you there wil be a next one, and one after that and ...

It's not that I don't agree with you, Brom, but if you go on MySpace and accept someone as a 'friend', then it's usual, I believe, to 'converse' as it were. I don't have a My Space account, but the kids do.

If he makes small talk and she still ignores him, then yes, he should forget her, but if she has already accepted him into her group of friends, then maybe they might find that they have something in common. I agree though that this should not become harrassment or anything that could be considered stalking.

I agree, of course, that this is a crush and it is better to just be friendly with people you know and meet in the real world and see what happens. It isn't love.

Messages in myspace get deleted in 15 days. Try sending another one.

they don't get deleted in 15 days, your sent box does. recieve messages stay until you read them/delete them. You can see in a bout the middle part if they read it. itll either say sent read or replied.

JSK.. if she doesn't respond and she has read it, she either isn't interested, has a boyfriend, likes someone, or doesn't talk to people on myspace she doesn't know. I personally hit the "deny" button for every friend request I get from people I don't know and the "delete" button for every message I get from people I don't know. There's nothing you can say to get her attention. If you REALLLYYYY wanna try anyways.. just tell her you've seen her in pagents, you thought she did very well, tell her you think she seem's like a nice girl and you would like to talk. if she doesn't reply again, leave it alone.