Angela - Do you have what you consider a "home" church? A church who are affiliated with or otherwise grew up in? I ask because if you do, pastors don't charge you more weddings in their/your church. =)
Also, there is no reason why it should be expensive. JUST to get married and do the wedding, it shouldn't cost you anything really besides the cost of your dress if you want one, and the marriage license.
If cost is the biggest issue for him, look into it! Many women (including myself!) made very affordable weddings. In my case, I had my mom arrange silk flowers which saved hundreds of dollars and was very inexpensive... and very pretty!! But we didn't decorate the church AT ALL and it looked just fine.
Sit down and talk it with him. Discuss what you want and why and see if there's a way to come to a compromise. Like I said, if costs are really his issue there are ways to make it completely inexpensive.
