She is not going to leave her husband

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
A woman started new at work. Before I even spoke with her, I knew there was something different about her. I was drawn to her, but just watched her mostly. A week after she had gotten there, she said hello to me. I am usually not a very forward person, but soething told me that I had to talk to her. I asked her if you wanted to go hang out with me and some friends, and she agreed without hesitation. I so excited and nervous, like nothing I had ever felt. We went out to eat dinner and went bowling. I noticed something early that night... a wedding ring. I was very dissapointed, but found that I could not stay awaty from her. We hung out every day, at work and any chance we had outside of work. Then it happened. She grabbed my hand, and then she kissed me. It was the most amazing thing I had ever felt, so passionate, so strong. Since that day, we have become closer and closer. We have made love to each other on at least 10 occasions, and any chance we get we are together. I have never met her husband, and we only hang out when he is not around. She feels very bad about cheating on him, but she says she loves me. I love her more than anything in the world, and I would do anything to be with her, but she feels that she married for life, and she has to try to make it work. I don't think she is unhappy in her marriage, she just knows that she would be happier with me. I show her attention and do and say things that her husband never would.

For the sake of morals, we have tried 4 or 5 times to break it off and be friends, but it never works. We are just miserable, and then I find myself in her arms again. The last time we made this decision, we never even finished the conversation before we changed our minds. What can I do? What should I do? I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life when we are together, but I am so sad when we are not. She is not going to leave her husband, and I am moving away in 9 months. I am afraid I will be saying goodbye to my soulmate if I go without her. I am so depressed about this whole thing, any advise? Thank you.

a lonely sailor Advice
She is not going to leave her husband.

That's what she has said and you should believe her. This leaves you in a bad situation since you are moving in nine months.

My advice is to enjoy the nine months and then leave her behind knowing that you had a beautiful relationship and that she is probably happier over all.

You will carry her in your heart for a long time, but that is not a big price to pay for having had the experiences you have had.

Good luck! George

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