We found out she was pregnant
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hello, I have a problem and I am going to try and make this as short as possible. First im 19 and she is 18yrs. It all started back in june 1st 2005 i started hanging out with this girl i had a major crush on for about a year. She has always been involved with guys rather then girls so i was always hesitant about being with her. Well on about june 3rd i asked her out and she didnt know because she had a crush on an ex boyfriend. Well her friends talked her into going with me so finally we were together and she ended up moving in with me, My problems started in august when we found out she was pregnant. She didnt want to keep it and said she wanted an abortion. Well by october 31 she moved back with her parents and broke up with me. She started going back to her old ways of always hanging out with guys. Even when she was out with them she wouldnt answer her cell phone if i called. She also goes to a day college in another town about 10 min away. Well one of my friends also goes there and said he had seen her going on her lunch break with some guy and that she is always with him in the hallways between classes... Well after a while i went to her parents and told them everything about the baby. They were happy and had no clue that she was preg. Well we convinced her to go to the doctor and get an exam to see if the baby was healthy. We went on 11/11/05..after we went and she saw a picture of the baby she still was heartless. nothing changed for her and that night she went to the movies with some kid she use to hang out with. Well time went by and i kept trying to be with her and she gave in. On dec-1st we started hanging out agin and we got somewhat close again. She decided to put the past behind her and she actually wanted to have the baby. trought time i asked her out again and she said yes, Well its 2-2-06 now and we couldnt be more in love! she is 6 months preg also. My problem is that she is still in college and she also works at a food store in the same town as the school. It may be jealousy, but im getting real worried because in her class its all boys. One of them is the one that she always went to eat with and now i found out she works with him to. I feel like she likes someone else, But she constantly tells me she dosent and she is %100 in love with me and she wants a family with me. I dont want to mess this all up but i hate he fact of her always being with guy friends. She also told me she has no interest in this boys at school. The one she works with called the other day and asked her if she knew what there homework was. she said they only talked for like 2 minutes then got off the phone. hen a week later he calls again and my g/f told me it was the kids mom asking if he went to school. I have a hard time beleiving her. I asked her to tell this boy to stop calling and asked how he even got her # because its not listed and He soposedly got it from work. She claims she told him yesterday to stop calling bc it was causing trouble. She said he also has a girlfriend and the only reason she started talking to him was bc he soposedly knew one of her friends from highschool. How can i deal with feeling like she is still out there...She isnt the type of person that likes to talk about her feeling either. Plus I dont want to get her moods going because she is preg.
Thank you so much!
You are filled with jealousy.
First I'll give you a "trick" to try get rid of the jealousy and then I'll give you a webpage to find more help.
The trick is to fight against the jealousy as if it were an enemy (which it is). Whenever you have a jealous thought or feeling tell it to go away and not bother you because your girl loves you. Do this a hundred times and the feelings will eventually give up trying to bother you and go away.
The webpage is: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com