Should I truly move on and just leave it to the hands of God
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
We were together for one year and a half and in the beginning everything was great. He told me it was love at first sight, but i took one year to finally tell him that I loved him due to past relationships. In this span, I took him for granted and he always forgave me for it when I would apologize. The reason I did this was because I would rather see him hurt, than hurt myself, selfishly enough. In the last 3 months our relationship was spiriling down. On my birthday, I wanted to go to the movies, a late showing at midnight, but he didnt so I told him to drop me off at home. I was mad and I just walked away when he called my name out. Then that next day he didnt talk to me and then we met up and he said he didnt know if he loved me anymore. That just tore me up inside and I was crying to him and he said he would give me one more chance. Then about two weeks later I had a party for my birthday and he got drunk and told me that he was sorry for making me feel like he didnt love me and kept telling me how much he loved me. He even talked to my brother for an hour about how much he truly loved me. Then about two weeks later he broke up with me telling me he needed his space. Then a week later he text message me, we talked about it and he said he loved me and he was sorry. Then about 3 weeks later, he told me he needed his space again, but this time it was not breaking up but not seeing or talking to each other as much. That devastated me of course. I also had my wisdom teeth taken out and I asked me if he was going to come over to take care of me and he said that he told me that he needed his space. Then I found out that he was sending pictures of his private part to girls he was talking to online and saying he was single. That tore me apart so I made up a screename and chatted with him and he told this girl that I was pretending to be that he was single and he didnt love his ex anymore and mean stuff like that. I couldnt take it anymore so I broke up with him and he later told me he knew it was me and wanted me to break up with him because he knew how devastated I was when he had broken up with me. It has been about two months and in between there we have talked. he got into a car accident on new years and he called me and i asked him if he loved me and his first response was maybe and then i asked him if he wanted to work thins out and he said it would be nice. then the following days we had some online chats and i asked him if he wanted to work things out and he said he wasnt 100% sure. That hurt me too, bcuz his accident should have made it clear if he really loved me or wanted to work things out with me. I love him so much i was willing to forgive and forget all. I told him that i would give him a month to decide if he wanted to work things out or not and to prove it to me. Well he kept chatting with girls. I had enough and told him I didnt want to work things out. Then he writes me an email saying he did want to work things out and how much he missed me and said he "still felt the love." But, that he read my email and saw that I didnt wnat to work it out. The reason I told him that I didnt want to work things out was because he never told me that he loved me or that he couldnt live his life without me and I didnt want to get back with him if he was just lonely. He made it seem like he was since on myspace he would be emailing all these girls cheesy pick up lines and either wanting sex or saying he wanted a relationship already. He makes me feel like I missed my chance to work things out and that its my fault that we are not going to work things out. How do I move on from this? Should I try to work things out? Also, I had written him a goodbye letter showing him my deepest feelings and emotiions filled with the wrongs i committed and apologies. basically the end of the letter tells him that I am going to leave our love in the hands of God. Does he deserve a letter like that? What should I do? Should I truly move on and just leave it to the hands of God or try to get him back?
I lost count of how many times you and your ex went back and forth on this...maybe 10 or so times.
That indicates that you can't live with or without each other. He has given you more than enough reason to give him his walking papers. Yet you still wonder what you should do.
The hard truth is that you should let things go and see what happens. Cut off all contact with him and don't fall for his calls to get back together. It seems like it is a game with him.
My best wishes are with you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com