Something inside me went dead feelings wise
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
hi...i met a great guy online couple of weeks back he lives in michigan and i live in missouri,but it was fine with me because he is planning on coming here during spring break so i would get to see him.i dont know if im selfish for asking this or not,but after i've seen his picture today something inside me went dead feelings wise.i dont feel the attraction i thought i was going to feel towards him,and now i really do not want him to come to missouri because i do not see myself with him when it comes to looks.i sound so selfish saying it,but i cant help it.so my question is...how do i deal with a situation like this,he's a great guy everything i would want except looks wise,am i selfish for saying this?
You're not selfish, you are just normal.
For any romantic relationship to grow, there must be chemistry.
Chemistry consists of many things and one is physical attraction. You just don't happen to be attracted to him physically and so you should try to find yourself a way to keep your relationship at a friendship level.
You can't come right out and say it was his looks, so maybe you will have to tell a white lie and say a boy asked you out and you said yes... so no visit.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com