He still touches me, holds me, wants to kiss me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I had a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. Of wich 2 we lived together. He broke up with me about 5,5 weeks ago. He said he had thought about his future and didn't want to be with a woman for the rest of his life who threw tempertantrums. Also he feels that we differ in opinion about the household and that I have to high expectations of him. He wants to be friends and not live together anymore. He said that he loves me more than just a friend, because we spent 5 years together. He doesn't want to throw that away. We are still living together because we can't move in with our parents or friends and do not have a separate place to live. This is what he wants our friendship to be, this is wat het litterly said: he wants to go out with me, go to diner with me and maybe more, visit me, go on holidays with me and he asked if I would sleep over at his house (guestroom) when we live seperately.
He still touches me, holds me, wants to kiss me.
I really need to know what I should do. I can't think straight. Does he want me back? Or does he really only wanne be friends? I'm so confused. He keeps repeating that it's over but his words and actions say something else. Help me!
I think he wants to keep the door open.
He may want a friends with benefits relationship. Or perhaps he is just acting out habits that he developed over the past five years.
If you want him back, my advice is to be his friend and hope that his feelings turn around. It's only been five weeks since he said this and that isn't time enough for a firm change to have taken place.
You might want to get some counseling for your temper tantrums. If untreated, this could get worse and stand in the way of you ever finding someone suitable.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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