My gf and I just got done arguing on the phone
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
ok. my gf and i just got done argueing on the phone about an extremely stupid thing. ok first off our friends say that were connected at the hip because whenever we hang out were always by each other but i dont find anything wrong with that. ok so yesturday i was waiting in the hall way for my gf so we could head to lunch. she shows up and we headed to lunch. we were talking about somthing and i mentioned that i could just go without her and get to lunch alot quicker and not have to wait in the line if i didnt wait for her. she got all pouty because of this but i was just kidding and she knew it so that was cool. but today, when she showed up she said "you know you dont have to wait for me." i was a little baffled by this and mentioned how she reacted yesturday when i said that i could just leave to go to lunch without her and how she got all pouty. she said yeah but were always walking together in the halls. so this kinda made me a little mad and i kept quiet about it for the rest of the day. then earlier tonight around 10 she calls me and we talk for a bit and then she brings up school today. she said "dont be upset about what happend at school." then i said well its kinda stupid. were bf and gf, why shouldnt we walk together in the halls? then that whole thing lead to lunch and were we sit during it. we had this every other day thing where one day we would sit at her friends table and then the next my friends table. that was working out swell till tonight. she said that she didnt want to sit at my friends table and that if i wanted to sit next her then id have to sit at her table. this made me extremely mad and sad. most of the people at her table are jerks and dont really like me sitting there. so i told her that and she agreed with me there. then after like a 5 minute talk about that part it pretty much ended up with her saying that if her friends wanted me to leave and i wouldnt shed pretty much just sit there quiet instead of helping me. so that was also stupid.
pretty much she just doesnt want us hanging around each other in school any more because of what our friends think. she use to be the one who would say "dont listen to what they say" or "who cares what they think." but now its switched around and shes taking it alot more seriously then i am. she said that she finally realized why they say were connected at the hip after going out for more then 11 months. it makes me feel like she doesnt even like me any more. it was a pretty calm arguement, alot of tension, but no yelling.
im just really confused and my heads all messed. help would be nice. thanks.
The first thing is to have patience.
You just finished arguing with her on the phone. Who knows what she might say tomorrow? Usually these things are smoothed over pretty quickly.
If the argument continues, however, try the art of compromise with her. You can find middle ground where both of you feel comfortable.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com