Does Size Really Matter?Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
does size really matter?
I assume that you're male and asking about the male sexual organ. Like everything in life there isn't one easy answer to this.
First, every male is different, and every female is different. So there is NO one perfect size. Believe me, some men are way too big for the average female. It literally hurts. But if that male then found a 'big' female, they would fit perfectly together and be in bliss.
Men are both long-short and fat-skinny in their privates. And again, this is true for women as well. So you could have a long-thin guy trying to fit with a fat-short girl and it just wouldn't work well. It wouldn't go in all the way and there'd be no friction for what was in. But when he then found a long-thin girl it'd be perfect. For every single male shape out there, there is a whole group of matching women.
But that's not to say that it HAS to match well for it to work. If the guy is too long or thick, it can be a problem, you have to take it easy, be careful and maybe even not go for the full intercourse. So that's one of the more difficult problems. You can't fix the length - you have to live with that. After a while she might expand to meet the thickness, if you're careful about it, so that would be OK if you have patience.
If the guy is too short or thin (again meaning that this particular woman is too long/wide for him), that's actually a far better problem! That's not a matter of pain, and pain in this situation is BAD. So now it's just a matter of not enough friction or penetration, so not as intense pleasure for either party. There are many, many ways to help this out. Let's assume you don't want to hunt for a woman that IS well matched and stay with this current one.
First, there are great Kegel exercises women can do to strengthen their inner walls. This in essence makes her "narrower" giving you both more pleasure. Also, guys get thicker or less thick based on the strength of their arousal. So find ways, either with toys or videos or whatever - to become *really* aroused. You might be surprised at the extra thickness you get.
For length, there's no real way to make a woman "shorter". However, did you know that a man's sex organ is a certain permanent length - starting from within his body to the end - that is the same regardless of how fat or thin he is? So if a guy puts on weight, some of his sex organ is actually now INSIDE his body and it's shorter! So being in good shape is a huge boost to your sex life.
Since in the 'short' case the guy is fully penetrating and it's just the woman that isn't getting the 'full' sensation, you can also try various sex toys. There are all sorts of add ons and items that give her extra pleasure, which usually is far more pleasure than she would have gotten with a normal intercourse with a longer guy.
And of course, there are always ways to please each other other than intercourse. So make full use of those.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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