I am so honest with my feelings
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
my question is very weird,at least to me i feel awkard asking it.i have a huge problem with taking things slow,i tend to move fast "feelings" wise...and i dont know why,like if i like somebody or if i notice that i care about them ill be very honest,even after couple of weeks,and i tend to baby talk to them and just show it in as many ways as possible.ex.gifts,etc.i think that i do that in hope that other person will do the same for me.u know they do say "do others as u wish that they will do upon u"in my past those feelings have never been returned to me so far,and i do not know how to change it,but i do know that if it continues like this that i will never have a successful and stable relationship.i am already 19 yrs. of age and none of my relationships have worked out because of the fact that i am so honest with my feelings :-(.i do not know how to hide them,even if i try not to say or show it everybody tells me that my face says the whole story either way.HELP.THANK YOU.
Usually, honestly expressing your feelings is a good thing.
Have you considered whether it is not the honesty that bothers you but that perhaps you express your feelings without enough thought. Sharing feelings, except with rare occasions, requires you to use some tact, forethought and finesse.
If you agree that this is the problem then you need to practice very hard with your female friends to curb this habit. You probably learned this behavior from your parents and it will be hard to change. Most people think before reacting because they fear rejection. You don't seem to have that fear. Which is a good thing in the long run but you still need to fix the problem that you described. Practicing with your friends is my advice.
On the other hand, you could just be who you are and wait until you meet a guy who likes you the way you are.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com