I Like my Guy Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Im in a sticky situation. i have known a guy since i was in the 6th grade and he was in 7th. we went out just as a little kid thing, but we have always been friends.
well now im 16 and i just had a break-up with my boyfriend. this guy started talking to me more, and it was about a week after it happened. started just talking online, then he called me. and we went to the movies and stuff. we flirt. i have really fallen for this guy. and i think he likes me too, because he told me he liked me and i was fun to be around and i was beautiful.
well i asked one of my friends to ask him what was going on between us. he told her we were just friends. is he meaning that as in we are "JUST FRIENDS- for now" or "just friends that hang out" i think he really likes me. but from what people are saying im kinda doubting it. people have told me that he doesnt like me. but why did he ask me out the movies this weekend if we are "just friends". help me!
First off, never, ever ask friends to try to pry secrets out of someone you are fond of!! Would you really want him to betray his care for you to some random person out there? How he feels about you is something only YOU and HE should talk about. No third parties should be involved in that.
Of course you guys like each other - you've been friends for years. So the question is are you ready and interested in crossing over into romantic lovers. The best relationships are always founded on great friendships, where the people are completely comfortable with each other and able to talk about anything. You guys already have that great basis going, and it sounds like you're both contemplating the cross-over. It's always a nervous stage, but millions of us have done it and are very happy we did.
I have a how-to on going from friend to boyfriend-girlfriend -
so just keep going along the way you are. Give each other hugs hello and goodbye. Give kisses on the cheek. I think after a few weeks or those you'll get clear signals if these are good things or uncomfortable things.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com