We haven't seen each other since black friday
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
We met through a mutual friend and ended up dating for just under a year, calling it quits in november. In august, she started medical school. I understand the stress and workload she is under and thats why i never complained about going out of my way for her. As we progressed into fall, it was getting to the point where our realationship was one sided, me doing everything. We talked about it and things were going much better, she even sent me "I LOVE YOU" ballons with a really sweet card. Things were going well until october when we found ourselves in the same position. We talked about things again but nothing changed. The weekend before thanksgiving, we decided to call it quits. I was fed up and she said she didn't have time for a boyfriend, she needed to focus on her studies.
I must also mention that she is very family oriented. At 22, she is a really mommy and daddy's girl. While I am not a bum (I work as a legislative aide to a Congressman), her mother saw me as one. She never took a liking to me because I wasn't going to be a doctor and make hundred of thousands of dollars per year. While she was the "fake nice" to me occasionally, she always managed to get her little digs in.
To make a long story short, we haven't seen each other since black friday and have only talked occasionally the last time being the week between christmas and new years ( and that was only briefly). She has texted me a few times and e-mailed me since i didn't respond to her intial contacts. I still love her very much and think about her constantly. Both my friends and her friends thought we made a great couple and were shocked when we ended things. I really want to talk to her face to face, even if it is just to catch up and for her to know i am still interested in her, whether it be on a friend level or more physical level. Is this a good idea, and can this ever work?
What might work is a periodic dinner.
You could catch up, remind her you care about her, and maintain contact.
See if she is willing to meet say once a month for a dinner out where she could take a break from her pressure filled life.
Give it a try! Good luck, George
-- from George
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