He is 43 yrs old and doesn't know how he feels
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I met this guy, we fell in love right away, he wrote hundreds of emails declaring his love for me. I gave in and began to love him too. Then on new years eve, he decided he didnt want to be with me anymore, no reasons. He decided i was just an affair, a fling, a rebound relationship. The things he wrote would indicate that he has true feelings. How do i make him see me as a real person that deserves a real relationship. I never loved anyone before, he is truly special to me, how can i express my feelings without sounded desperate, how can i make him see that what he wrote is true. The only thing he says is that it was true, as he saw it then. What does that mean? I guess what i need is help getting over the fact that i am 30 yrs old and i really love him. His is 43 yrs old and doesnt know how he feels. I dont know what to do to get him back. Please anything wil be helpful.
It sounds like both of you are confused about how you feel.
You asked for help getting over him and also advice for getting him back. Then you said he doesn't know how he feels.
None of this is easy. If it were you wouldn't be writing. First figure out what you priority is... to get over him or get him back. From what you wrote, my guess is that you want him back. Getting him back may be possible if you can keep him as a good friend and hope he will fall back in love, at least for a while (unfortunately). Ask him if you can call once a week. Ask him how he is doing, tell him you still care for him. Be cheerful, don't discuss your relationship, and keep the call to 15 mins. This will give him the space he wants and gives you to contact you need. You won't sound desperate.
After a while, ask him over for his favorite home-cooked dinner in a romantic setting. Get to his heart through his stomach.
Hope some of this helps! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com