I'm Jealous about the Attention my Boyfriend Gets
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
well i am a 33yr old gwm dating a 30yr old gwm who just came out , my question is we recently went out to dinner and they waiter and another customer was giving my boyfried the eye. Everytime the waiter left my boyfriend was grinning and when we talk about it he said he wasnt interested in him and let me know some one else - another customer - was checking him out and he said he had no interest but it bother me that he was grining when the waiter would leave.
am i over reacting? he told me and it makes sense he didnt exchange ph # or give them any thought he told me we both have to deal with this because other people are going to be interested in him and me.
other questions what can i do when i start feeling insecure and jealous ? i thought counting to 100, ignoring the situation but i know it can over come this but i want to learn tips to help thanks
I have a how-to on dealing with jealousy and insecurity -
but you really do have to get a handle on this!! Your boyfriend sounds attractive. That's a good thing! Other people are going to appreciate him. So be proud he's with you! He shouldn't have to hide under a paper bag when he goes out so nobody else can look at him. And he shouldn't have to scowl at people and drive them away, either.
He's handsome and he enjoys when people flatter him. He isn't persuing these people. So be happy that he's appreciated, be happy he has chosen to be with you, and be happy at the fun you guys can have together. Life is too short to obsess over the chances of someone leaving you, and then destroying a perfectly good relationship because "he MIGHT leave me." It's time to trust him, and enjoy yourselves.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com