I'm not a cheater by nature
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been broken up with my ex for 3 months now. I have been dating a new guy for 2 of those months. When I am with my current boyfriend I am happy and he makes me feel special. But when hes not around I cant help but think about my ex. We were together for almost 2 years and he was my first. My ex and I have stayed in contact because it wasn't a bad break up, and he says that he cant stand the thought of me being with anyone else (he doesnt know about the current boyfriend)but doesnt know if we could be together, but then he says that he wants to get back together and try and he misses me so much. I keep thinking about how much fun we had together and how wonderful the relationship was. When my boyfriend isnt around I keep thinking about accepting my exs invitaions to come over. Im not a cheater by nature and dont want to be, but yet I dont know if throwing away the relationshiop I have for the relationship that I had is a good idea. Or if I stay with my current boyfriend whether Ill always wonder and think about my ex and how great things could have been or might have been if we gave it a try. Please help.
My advice is that you will potentially ruin both relationships if you start lying to both of them.
Make up your mind which way you want to go. You already know your ex and you know your current b/f. You have nothing to gain by cheating on both of them.
Once you make up your mind, be honest with the person who is left behind. He deserves to know.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com