He calls them “honeybunch” hugs
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
There’s this guy who comes in the office I work at. He seems to be coming in more often lately. He’s got a very outgoing, sometimes almost eccentric type personality. Lately, he’s on this kick about wanting a hug all the time….he calls them “honeybunch” hugs. He’s extremely sexy and he has this charisma about him. He calls me “darling” and “hun”. But sometimes he’s like that to other people too, so I don’t if it’s real or not. Lately, he comes in the office just because. He’s not there for business purposes…he’s just coming to talk. The only people in the front of our office is me and one other lady but he doesn’t talk to her much and plus she’s married. So, it appears he’s dropping by to see me. Twice recently when no one else was in the area of the office where we were…he tried to get me to come over where he was and give him a hug. He said it in this sexy alluring way. I don’t know if he’s just feeding his male ego or what!? My personality is opposite his and I’m a lot younger than him. He’s 42 and I’m almost 25 (he doesn't look or act 42!). I can’t imagine why in the world he’d want me, so I wonder if he’s just messing with me. Sometimes he says things that make me think he wants to talk or open up to me about something. I’m usually too shy and don’t know what to say. He’s got a lot of stuff to deal with in his personal life and I don’t want to be too nosey or over step any boundaries. What should I do? I’m terrible when it comes to flirting. I usually freeze up and don’t know what to say. I thought about dropping by his office someday and telling him I was needing one of those “honeybunch” hugs to warm me up. I guess that sounds stupid. I’m shy and modest and he’s so experienced and sensual. He’s so outrageous and flamboyant in his actions and does things out of the ordinary all the time. I’m not sure if I’d surprise him or amuse him by trying to flirt back or by making a move. Should I make a move? If so, do you have any suggestions? Help!?!
I think he likes you the way you are.
So my advice is not to visit his office or make any moves.
What you can do if you want to get closer is to be more open to listening to his problems. He seems to have a need to share with you.
One thing that would attract him to you is your youth and shyness-- probably his personality meshes with yours more than you think.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com