How could we continue dating if someone has found out about us ?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'm 17 she's 18.So I know this person for a year and a half(we go on the same school). She found about my feelings through a joke page(I think it is called crush calculator). For quite a time period nothing happened but I felt that she is more attracted to me. Then a few days before New year's day we went on a trip to one of her friends in the country. We had a lot of fun and stuff I didn't know if she had taken the joke page's answer seriously so I was afraid to tell her that I have some feelings for her and if she does the same. Later on, few days after the trip and New year's day she sent me a SMS asking if I were serious about it, I answered yes. At first I was nervous esspecially on the first date, but now it's ok. We have been on few dates and it's going quite well a bit slow but I feel that were progressing step by stpe in our relationship and I feel quite comfortable when I'm with her(even if were not talking about anything just being silent and with her makes me happy). I have noticed that I almost all the time smile when I'm talking with her during the date. I can't stop thinking about her and when I do about the time we have spent together it makes me smile. The problem ,as stupid it may seem, are her classmates that we think of a bit unmature and they could ruin this good relationship between her and me. We ageed to not to tell around about that we are dating. So at school I have to act as I did previously ,even a bit cooler I think, when around her and it's a real torture as if a wall of ice was between us. I know that sooner or later someone will see us being together and possibly this relationship could be destroyed but I do believe that we would withstand it . I haven't told anyone that I date her and I think she hasn't too. So in the end I would like to ask what could be the answer to this dillema and how should we act when someone has found about that were dating and how possibly we could preserve our relationship and continue dating if someone has found out about us ?
P.S I know this sounds quite weird.
Thanks in advance!
You are plenty old enough to be dating openly.
Agree between each other than you will be strong enough to withstand the pressure that your peers may put upon you.
Perhaps you could tell your best friend about it and ask him for his support and your girlfriend could do the same with her best friend. It's always good to have someone on your side when things get rough.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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