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Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I’ve been in love with a friend of mine for 4 years but was never able to work up the confidence to tell her I feel. I’m not exactly a looker and she’s so beautiful she takes my breath away every time I see her. I did try to show her my feelings when being around her by flirting a little bit and giving her some compliments and I could(and still can) make her laugh like no one else can. I always felt we had good chemistry and sometimes felt like maybe she was flirting back but thought maybe it was just some friendly flirting because even though she did that it never seemed like she was really interested in me. Our senior year in high school she was in a play and I went all 4 times it showed. I thought maybe she would see that I was trying to show she was really important to me, and she was very happy when she saw me there and would give me a big hug. But at the same time I could also see that she starting to fall for a guy who was in the play with her and it ripped my heart out, but I wanted her to be happy so I backed off. She’s been dating him for about 10 months now and I hardly ever see her because we go to different colleges, her boyfriend goes to a college in the same town so it seems like they’re pretty serious. We still keep in touch on the internet, but it seems like the only way for her to talk to me is for me to email her first and sometimes she doesn’t write me back. When I get out of school on breaks I’m able too see her when I go back home, and I can’t wait to see her, but at the same time it’s hard to be around her when I love her so much and can’t show her how I feel anymore. It’s also very hard for me when she hugs me because if I could I would never let her go. Anyway when I look at her I know she’s the one I supposed to spend the rest of my life with. But like I said she’s dating a guy who she’s happy with but just doesn’t seem right for her, he’s not a bad guy but she could do better(I’m not the only one who thinks she’s with the wrong guy). I want her to be happy but I know it wouldn’t be right for me to tell her how I feel because it could wreck her relationship and make our friendship awkward. But I don’t know what I’d do if she married him or something, so I feel like I need to tell her she’s the one. If I told her I don’t think she would break off the friendship but it would maybe make us be more distant and that would be very hard on me. I’m just lost right now and don’t know what to do. Do I tell her my feelings and just see what happens or do I just sacrifice my chance with the love of my life? I could really use the advice asap because as time goes by my chances get smaller. Sorry this was so long! Thanks.
By telling her you run the risk of ruining your friendship.
But by not telling her you risk never having a relationship with her.
My advice is to tell her how you feel and get it over with. She will probably reply that she has a boyfriend. Then you should ask if she ever sees the two of you getting together.
If she says no, then accept it gracefully and go your own way.
You have waited so long, you should find out once and for all.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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