Gawking at girls
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
What do you do when you are faced with a man that has stares at other woman, even in my presence. He says he does not realize when he is doing this. His father admitted that he does this as well and it is not on purpose. Although, I have no reason to believe that he would ever cheat on me, it makes me feel insecure and jealous. I have spoken with him about this and I do see some effort on his part not to stare when I am with him. Now here is the real puzzler, if this is a habit, can you be control of that habit you are not aware of doing? His career takes him out of town all the time for weeks on end. I wonder who he is eyeing up while he is gone, and what becomes of it. Am I wrong to feel jealous and insecure? Help!
It is natural to feel jealous and insecure when your partner eyes others.
Thankfully he is trying to stop this bad habit which he probably learned from his father.
I had this same problem with a woman who eyed guys. She seemed oblivious to what she was doing. The problem never went away... probably because I didn't care enough to make an issue of it.
Seems like what you are doing is having some impact, so keep it up. Don't worry about when he is away. Either you trust him or you don't.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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