He says he doesn't like to talk about the future
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 21 currently seeing a 32 year old. At first I thought it was wrong but I had talked about it with friends and my parents and as long as they said I were happy and if its going well, it should be no problem. The fact I had approval from my parents made this really easy for me to let go of the age situation. The first night we hung out, it seemed it was out of a movie. He kept telling me how mature I was for my age (which in all honesty I am very successful thus far) and how he was okay with it because I was mature. That night, I had a lot to drink but I was sober enough to know the decision I was making when we decided to have sex that night. Days go by and we would talk here and there. He is in the middle of opening up his own business but he would sometimes stop by to say hi or ( I hate to be blunt) have sex because in all honesty it's great. Lately when I ask him about us, (after the 3rd time he gets annoyed since he doesn't give me straight answers ) and he's always saying he's busy and that all he knows is simply "he just has a lot of fun with me." He also mentioned that I am the only girl he's seeing (that he has time for) and he'll time to time ask if I'm "seeing" anyone else. He says he doesn't like to talk about the future or get too serious about it now because he wants to wait it out and he doesn't have time which in some cases I believe him because he is at his store from 730am to 830pm every single day. Is he still into me, using me, or is he just really busy? He's not to good with the phone calls either but if he's still somewhat into me, can I still save this? How can I tell if he cares about me in that way? Since he is older, it is really hard for me to read him because I keep telling myself this is a more an "adult" relationship and I should just chill out sometimes. Please help.
He is overwhelmed by his new business right now.
You are lucky he has any time for you.
You might want to ask him if he has any idea how long it will be before he has enough time so he can spend more time with you. You don't want to get stuck with a work-aholic who never has time for you. If this business is successful he might want to start up another.
Have a long honest and caring talk with him and see what you can find out.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com