11 hours apart
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
ok I want to get back with my ex but I dont know how. Everything was great at first, I met her in my home town in texas and we spent a whole week togther and a little less than a month later i found myself moving to louisiana to be with her after we had talked about it alot leaving college behind. we lived together for over a year and a half and we both decided i needed to go back to college in texas to play baseball. everything was good for the first between us except the 11 hour distance between us until the week before i went home for thanksgiving and i told her that i over dosed and tried to kill myself and she found a strange number on my phone bill and ask whose it was and i told her it was a friend of mine who happened to be a girl and i had called her to talk to her about my OD and my girlfriend at the time ask why i had to confide in another girl during a situation like that. then when i was home for thanksgiving she told me that she had been goin out with her friends to clubs alot and was dancing with other guys and she said they were just friends and then i dug into her background about that and pissed her off even more. i went back to school at the end of the week and we talked back and fourth on the phone like normal and then a little before christmas she told me she didnt want me coming home and that she wasnt 100% sure she wanted to be with me right now but she could see us together in the future and that i was the one for her but she needed time to think things over and to forget about what i had done. ive called her alot just to talk and to tell her that i love her and miss her and to see where we stand as far as being together again and she just tells me she doesnt know and that im pushing her further away, now its been over a month and i miss her alot and have tried to talk to other girls but it just makes me think of her even more. i cry over this alot and i am willing to do anything to let her know how sorry i am and to get another chance to have her back in my life. i know that she is the person for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. what can i do? sorry its so long but theres alot
You're highest priority right now should be to make an appointment at your University Student Health Service to see a professional counselor. Ask them to help you understand why you tried to kill yourself.
Once you understand that, you will be in a better condition to patch things up with your ex. This doesn't mean you should stop trying now though. Continue to let her know you care on a regular basis (maybe once a week for 15 mins on the phone). This will give her the space she needs and give you the contact you need.
She will respect you for giving her room and for seeking treatment. These will lead in the direction of getting back together.
If you have the urge to kill yourself again, seek out medical attention immediately... you can always call 911 if you need to. Ask your counselor for more advice on this topic.
Good luck! George
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