I don't want to ruin our friendship
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There's this girl who I have known for 3-4 years now, but we have only started to really get to know each other for about 6 months now. At first she was the one who greeted and talked to me(she really seemed to like me), the first time we had an actual conversation she really opened up to me(told about how her and her ex-best friend stopped being friends) and I had a good time with her, ever since we've been pretty good friends and she even lets me call her chubbs('cause she thinks she's fat, but is very athletic)and we flirt and joke often,I tell her I love her sometimes and she says she does too. But she gives me these mixed signals sometimes, like when im talking to her she'll all of a sudden walk away to talk to some other guy(in the past she dated guys that didn't seem to appreciate her very much) or if i see her in the halls i'll slightly tap her with my elbow and she ignores me and talks to someone else. i really like her and want to tell her how i feel but i don't know if she feels the same and i don't want to ruin the friendship. so does she like me? should i tell her my feelings? what should i doooooo?!
Here is a fairly safe method:
When you are talking with her, casually say that you have started "developing feelings" for her. This isn't too bold of a statement so it shouldn't affect your friendship.
Hopefully she will answer that she feels the same. If she doesn't tell her you will give her time to think about how she feels toward you and then you will ask her the next time you see her. Then be sure to do it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com