Why do i love him?! im bored, man!!!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hey there George, Things r getting finer! I have move on from 'i want my ex back' to 'does he likes me'.
Im jus wonderin. Before, he wus kinda like cold to me. But,i didnt stop gettin his attention here n there, on & off, eh?!?
I updated my pic, and, when he saw it, he said hi to me first, at msn. He likes my pic a lot, n then he starts flirtin with me. I enjoyed it so much. He even sms me to lemme kno he is online the next day. Dat shows he's interested in chattin with me.
Well, then, i asked him too, for his latest pic n he happily sent me. Later i told him that i am gonna call him on the phone. He said, ok. When times come, i sms him n said gonna call him in 15 mins. he said he gonna have a shower. time pass, 30mins later, he said he havent had a shower as water heater not resisting down n he is lookin on it!. So i replied that maybe i call him perhaps another day. he replied again that we'll speak later, he wil sms me n i can call him then. But that 'later' never comes from him. And he didnt bother to even tell me. i, too, didnt bother to ask him then, as i had take it, it's his promise to sms me.
Wuts goin on with him, george!?
well then, i told him that his recent pic kinda look bad. like he looks aging! He said im talkin nonsense n that he is taking good care of himself 10x more. All i said wus showin him care to have enough food, sleep and quit smoking. Then next all i know is, he takes it that i jus trying to make him angry by saying all this!
George, why is it, to him, whenever i show my care, he always take it that im jus tryna make him angry! It really hurts me a lot! I feel like he is playing game with me then. Even im gettin confused. Somedays i feel like i know him very well and that he's the one for me. but other days, i jus feel that im jus some stupid girl for him! George, at any moment i feel down, i jus wanna forget him or even scold him n tell him how much i hate him. but then, suddenly, i will miss him n feel i love him so very much etc etc etc. Y this keep coming and going! I thot i have overcome all that and had improve better but then small things makes me sooo sensitive! oh my god!! i really at lose end with my feelings towards him! no guy ever makes me feel how i feel for him and he is soooo world's apart from me. Why do i love him?! im bored, man!!!
Maybe you love him because you are bored.
Boredom can be relieved by adrenalin. Love (and infatuation) release adrenalin into your system giving you a temporary boost.
Also, his unreliability causes adrenalin to flow. That keeps you attached. Unfortunately your brain recognizes that this is false and that's what's got you worried.
Tell him straight out that he has to shape up or you're going to dump him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com