14 years of pingpong with my heart as the ball
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
I have a friend that I have known for 14 years. She has been traumatized by something that happened in her past. She is sweet and charming when we are together. I can tell that she likes me. We made love once with good results. If I were not in her life, the only man in her life would be her father, as she tends to be reclusive. She owns her house and tends to regard it as a haven from the world. I have asked her about our relationship problems, but don't get a satisfactory answer. She tells me that she runs from confrontations. When I get her a gift of appreciation or even a birthday or holiday gift, she gets mad at me, threatening to break off our relationship.
Our relationship goes through a seemingly endless loop:
1.) One or the other of us run into each other.
2.) We go out a few times, and have a great time.
3.) We make plans to do something, but when i show up, she stays inside of her house, not answering the door.
4.) We con't talk for a while.
5.) The whole thing starts all over.
It's been 14 years of pingpong with my heart as the ball. Is there something I could do to break the cycle? Or Should I give it up? Should I remain friends?
You could try asking her to meet you somewhere rather than picking her up at her door.
Other than that idea, my advice is to dump her and get on with your life. She is rude and inconsiderate to leave you standing at her door. It is surprising that this has gone on for 14 years.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com