All I want is to have him back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm in absolute heart ache over losing what i believe to be the love of my life. We were together a year and six weeks, and it wasn't long before we became so enthralled with love for eachother, we became engaged. But things have not run smoothly. My problem is that he finsihed with me. and its not the first time yet we have always loved eachother far too much to be apart for long and sorted things out. Yet this time, he seems completely intent on following through like never ever before. And him being a very stubborn person does not help, as It feels as If I am having to try and rescue us alot of the time. At first, I was very much unsure if I had actually done anything wrong, but its only been a day and I actually realize I was. He used to treat me like an absolute princess not even long ago, and I really felt the love radiating from both him and me. But he has lately been saying I take him for granted and the love his love was never reciprocated. which I believe I could've done afterall. Though I KNOW I am in lvoe, I wish I could convey it in a way that would get through to him. He told me its rare that he has felt loved by me and I apparently sound false. and he does not think I love him at all, and calls me a liar whenever i try to explain otherwise. He broke up with me over something stupid and trivial. and said he is sick of me and alot of nasty things. He later explained he was apologetic and he was almsot trying to make me hate him. It was as if he was hinting he would like to get back with me...But then when I tried to tell him how I felt he only began the extremely nasty remarks again. I dont understand. All I want is to have him back. He was the centre of my life. We had something I could never forget, and I don't believe we are lost. Please help me. x
It almost seems like he is testing you.
He complains that you don't love him so now you need to prove to him that you love him. Now, you say that you do love him. Ask yourself why he doesn't feel it. Think about how he expresses his love for you... do you do those same things back to him? How do people express love in his family? These can be clues as to what makes him feel loved.
Maybe you should buy him candy, make him cookies (chocolate chip), or ask him out to eat. Food can be the way to some men's heart.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com