When I'm gone she comes back around
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi there. I know you probably remember me from a few months ago. Anyway, I'm just here to enlighten you of my current position and the role I play. My ex and I have been down hard and when I say hard, I mean hard. Things were said and I told her that I was done along with giving her some things back even though I didn't want to.
Sometimes peop.e can make you do things when you know you don't want to. I had to dig deep down inside and find out wehat it was that had me holding on to her like a tic on a dog. It took some time for me to understand what I was doing. I was never involved in a situation like this. You know what they say, its a first time for everything. Thats so true. I told her a few days later that I didn't mean it and I apologized for it, but it was too late. I guess. With all of this in my head and not being able to focus, I had to do something about this. I had to get over her and move on. The fight was hard, but the battle wasn't over. I made it over that hump. I asked her if I can see her and she told me there was not any reason for me to. I had to let it go. All communication was done. Almost a month went by and I haven't heard nor seen her. Out of the blue she called me with her daughter on the phone and let me speak to her after that she hung up. The very next day, she called back and wanted to talk. After that she started calling me more and more and more. You getr the picture. To this day, we communicate better than we did before. She calls me now. I still really don't call her since the big fallen out, but its good. I don't bring nothing up about us and she feels more comfortable. She wqanted to spend New Year's with me and we did.
Now how would you determine whats happening here. Is it because she think she was about to loose me and I wasn't playing or do you think she really misses and wants to be with me? I think I threw a wrench in her ego and pride. Its hard to tell. It seems like when I'm gone she comes back around. WHat do you think? Help me please
This is not an unusual situation.
When one person (you) backs off the other person (her) all of a sudden becomes interested in you again.
Take advantage of the situation, if you want to, and let her expand the romance that seems to be rekindling again.
Here's wishing you the best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com