Was he serious when he told me he love me?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
It was too late for me, the moment he told me he was married, I was head over heels in love with him. I laugh it all off, pretended it was alright, informed him that I was also making a game out of such circumstance and told him to stop flirting and make a clean start over our relationship..strictly as friends this time.
I continued being the "friend",purposely because I do not want to loose him, being there always when he needs me. I really did not expect that out of the blue he tells me he loves me, i ignored it, but he still keeps slipping it up...One time we were alone in a room, he kept smilling, singing "it is sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along", when we fell asleep, all he did was stare at me, woke me up with a light kiss and smiled.. That made me love him more. He took me home safely and intact.
I am so confused as of now, I know he has kids and is married..And just recently his wife found out about the messages we wrote to each other---seriously though to other people, but I made it a point to treat such as something hilarious.No seriousness attached whatsoever..So I told him that we should keep our distances from this time on.
No matter what, he still smiles and stares at me all the time but never comes near me anymore, my problem is, I miss him so much, I laugh it all off in the morning but cry at night, I stare at the telephone, wishing he would call, wanting to make the first move, but could not.Because there was no official declaration and or physical relationship between us.
Now my question? I know we are just playing around, but could it be that he was actually serious when he told me he love me? I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help me..
It doesn't matter if he was serious about saying he loved you.
You just need to know to stay away from him and try to get over him as soon as possible. Nobody needs to tell you that a married man with kids is off limits unless there are terrible problems in the marriage. And even then, counseling might help the couple.
You will get over this just as you have gotten over other things in the past. You know the routine... find other things to do, keep your mind off him, find someone new. Keep this as a good memory and be thankful it won't be a nightmare that you have to remember.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com