We broke up in december
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My exgirlfriend just ended our 1year and 5 months relationship. we were happy together and loved each other and planned toget married. after 8 months i went to university which was out of town, this was in january. I was only able to see her once a month during this period. I came back in may when my school finished and spent the whole summer with her. I then went back to school again in the fall. We broke up in december. She said she doesn't feel "in love" anymore. She said she loves me but not how a couple is supposed to feel so i am assuming like a friend. She mentioned myself going away initated the damage. We did have some arguements in the summer which increased the damage as well. But i am asssuming that the main reason is simply loss of attraction due to being apart and resulting in discomfort on her side. I believe I may have been stressed and depressed during the summer and fall sometimes due to my studies and future career. when she broke up with me i was panicing at the begining asking for reconsideration. I also asked for couples counciling. She straongly declined. She cried for me and when i took her home she cried again and then I quietly left acting like I respected her decision.
I have read many tips and advices. I am planning to act and be happy about this situation and would start over by being friends with her. but I don't know how often I should contact her. we broke up a week ago and i haven't talked to her since to give her some space. Her birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and I will definetely talk to her then but not sure about giving a gift or not. we are living apart again, but i am planning to go see her in 2 months for a short coffee or lunch. and if that doesn't work i am going to wait 2 years when I finish school when i comje back home. My question is, is there a chance for us? and is plan going to work? and if not what should i do instead?
I am still deeply in love with her, and i'd like to spend the rest of my life with her. I miss her alot right now. and i know time will heal this, but I know she is the one for me. I know shes not the only woman but I can see a great life with her. I am in the rebound phase, but i know I will feel like this for a long time and i will never give-up even if she moves on.
You've only been apart for a week now.
Don't make rash conclusions or decisions.
Definitely celebrate her birthday with her and don't forget Valentine's Day. She will appreciate attention on both days.
Who knows, a month from now you may be the fondest of lovers again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com