She really hasn't told me about how she feels.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi!i'm 25 and my girlfriend 23, so we both are old enough to know really what we both want in this rellationship.I mean it doesn't take rocket science to figure it out her and I are old enough to know what our decisions in life. None of those childish games and so that's what i believe in.
Anyway, I just recently move in back in town to take care some personal business. So i stayed at my brothers house for a while. One night i meet this girl at the bar and we both have this amazing sparks. We both started hangin out more after 3 weeks of meeting each other. So we both decided to take it to the next level. Her and I know that we are together (bf and gf) even though i didn't asked her out. Let's just say it was the instinct that took us booth to that level. Plus only young kids do that (asking each other out). Anyway, everything wen't so great. She treats me like a king, she tells me sweet things that none any of my x gf tells me. We constantly cuddle and hold hands all the time so we really have a good spark in our rellationship.
Well, one day my brothers roommate and I had a huge arguement about what he did to me behind my back but that is another story so i'm not gonna go there. Anyway, we had a fight and he told me that he doesn't want me around living with them. My brothers can't do anything about it because it was the roommates name in the lease. So I told my girlfriend about it and she felt it was a fuck thing about what happend so she offered me to stay with her until i get my own place and my own job. Now remember i just move back in town to take care some personal business. This was about december of 2005 (last year). It was really hard for me to get my own place cause i didn't have a job. I lived in a small town and the jobs around are pretty much filled up for christmas season. So it's going to take a while to get back at my feet. Thanks to my gf. Other wise i will be homeless.
Back to the story. It's been almost 3 months into our relationship. suddenly she change without giving me any signs. We don't cuddle much anymore, we don't give kisses as much, she doesn't say all the sweet words that she use to say anymore. One weekend she went back home to visit her family about 5 hrs away. She won't call me when she said she would. She gives me excuses that she forget to call me. Things like that. we use to have sex every single night and in the morning. Now i don't remember when was the last time we had sex. We had a great sex life. She told me that no man had ever made her cum as much as i did. So it was good.
So i didn't really understand why one day that sparks of her just went out suddenly. i mean I treated her like a gf. We didn't have any fights for the 3 months of our rellationship then just suddenly it change. I just feel like she doesn't like me or want to be with anymore.
My question is. What should i do to keep the sparks in? I mean she really hasn't told me about how she feels about.
My second question is how can i change this around with her or how can i make her like me again.
now remember this is only how i see it from her. I might be wrong about this but there is something wrong with our rellationship.
My 3rd question is how can i show her how i feel about her and can change things around back to were it use to be?
You need to talk with her.
Find out what changed her behavior. Neither of you seem to have been sharing your feelings on what should be a very important aspect of your life.
The way to get things back to the way they were is to communicate. After several long, deep, trusting, caring, and honest conversations the old feelings should start coming back. This assumes, of course, that the discussions go well. If either of you is hostile, uncommunicative, or defensive there is a good chance the conversations will not go well.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com